• communication

    setting boundaries, even if it means losing people I love

    (The following is a post I’ve had sitting around in a file on my computer for ages now unposted – the situation it refers to is old concern, not a current one, but I thought in light of the hashtag #yesallwomen I would post it.) If you’ve said no, you won’t do a favor for someone and they continue to ask over and over, sending you more and more aggressive messages, is that just social awkwardness on the other person’s part? If your sitting at a table talking with friends and someone who you’ve already asked not to talk to you sits down, and you ask again for the person…

  • politics

    I’m a woman, not a cis-woman.

    My last blog post was about two children’s books about people not wanting to admit that they had seen something because they were scared they would be judged for it, labeled stupid or crazy. Today I want to write about one of the topics that I fear to speak on. The topic is gender and in particular transgenderism, and I have written a bit about it before but, like right now, fearfully.  I wrote about it in the context of hearing that a particular environmental group, Deep Green Resistance, was being blacklisted by transactivists. In the year since then I’ve continued to read bits about Deep Green Resistance, and about…

  • books,  history

    Learning about medieval religious plays and poems

    Yesterday I finished reading the book A Little Lower Than the Angels by Geraldine McCaughrean. It is a great historical fiction novel, set in Britain during the middle ages and one of the wonderful things about it is that it isn’t about knights and castles. Instead its about a stone-mason’s apprentice, Gabriel, who runs away with a group of travelling mystery players. Gabriel enjoys the care given to him by Garvey, the playmaster who plays God, but he’s a little nervous around the Frenchman Lucier, who plays Lucifer. When they run into some trouble Garvey decides to turn Gabriel into a faux miracle worker and tensions mount. Gabriel is innocent…

  • books

    Thoughts about Heavy Hangs the Head

    Heavy Hangs the Heart is a very short memoir by Taryn Hipp, and published by Sweet Candy Press. Now Taryn Hipp and Sweet Candy Press are both reasonably new to publishing books, having only recently branched out from the world of zine publishing. I was approached by Sage, from Sweet Candy Press, about reviewing the book and was sent a free copy to do so, but as always, I get to write what I want. Taryn is close in age to me but our lives were very different. As such, I feel awkward commenting on her memoir, but I’m going to do it anyway, as respectfully as I can, because…

  • history,  politics

    my post on why we still need feminism

    Online news is filled with stories about the rape chant from Saint Mary’s University and while there’s been backlash about it now somehow the students at that university have been putting up with the chant since at least 2009. Then there’s the story about Stacey Rambold being sentenced to just a month in prison after raping a 14 year old, and the defense having argued that “Rambold had already suffered enough punishment after losing his career and his marriage and saw his reputation damaged through internet coverage of the case.” Reading that part of what made me feel sick was the question of how many of the men I know…