being wrong, accepting criticism and imperfection

“No, friendship is NOT about ‘supporting your friends even when you know they’re wrong.” That’s not friendship. That’s being an enabler. That’s being an accomplice. Friendship is loving someone enough to tell them to stop being an idiot before they ruin their lives.” I saw a text-in-a-box thing on facebook today with that text. I read it, re-read it, and thought about a time when I acted as an enabler, supporting someone as she got back together with an abuser, and how I wish I had handled it differently. I had been so scared she’d stop talking to me that Continue reading

Valentine’s Day

Valentine’s Day is one of those weird non-holiday holidays. There’s issues with the ethics of cut flowers and a need to buy ethical fair-trade organic chocolate. There are those who complain about it making single people feel bad and others who say its all just a marketing scam. Yet this year, despite the strangeness, I’m drawn to the idea of Valentine’s Day. See the 14th isn’t just Valentine’s Day. In Canada it’s the day of the missing women memorial march remembering native women who have been murdered and/or trafficked. In other countries it is the day for One Billion Rising, Continue reading

reminders why feminism is still relevant

It has been one of those weeks where I think about feminism lots. And basically as a married, white woman living a rather isolated life as a homeschool mother and social activist, I’m pretty protected from a lot of the problems women face in the world. So I can forget about feminism for lengths of time, while I homeschool my children and go about daily life. But then little things remind me more, why I need to make reading and improving my feminist analysis a bigger part of my life. I think about how we women are supposed to feel Continue reading

Do not re-post if you are against bullying. (Link to this if you agree.)

Here's a screen cap of one of the variations of the meme about why you shouldn't bully.

How we talk about bullying matters and so I want to comment about something I keep seeing on facebook. It’s a status update people are copying-pasting because they are “against bullying.” The meme goes like this: “That girl you called a slut in class today? She’s a virgin. The “gay boy” you punched in the hall today? He committed suicide a few minutes ago. The boy you called poor? He has to work every night to support his family. The girl you pushed down the other day? She’s already being abused at home. That girl you called fat? She’s starving herself. The old Continue reading

Dinosaurs, Genesis & the Gospel

An image of a school test has been making the rounds on the internet and snopes has confirmed that it is not faked. The other day I saw on a homeschooler’s facebook page an advertisement for a discount code to get a free copy of the video (code “dino” though I can’t promise whether it works or not still) that the students watched prior to writing this test. I downloaded it and it is every bit as crazy as I feared. The video is predominantly footage of a presentation done in front of a half-filled auditorium of young children, with additional animated material. Continue reading

Religion and Spirituality

This morning facebook greeted me with a picture of a native man on horseback and the quote: “Religion is for people afraid of going to hell. Spirituality is for those who have already been there” by Vine Deloria. Two thoughts battle for space in my mind. One is the thought that because it is a native person quoted and natives have been so awfully treated by colonial religious authorities, and it is a native person who posted the picture to facebook, that I shouldn’t comment on it. Native people’s religious beliefs have been bashed for way to long, and foreign Continue reading

Meme-y Monday: Prisoners treated better than the elderly?

There is a meme going around the internet that says: “Here is some food for thought…We should place the elderly in prisons. They will get a shower a day, video surveillance in case of problems, three hot meals a day, access to a library, computer, TV, gym, doctor on-site, free medication if needed. We should put criminals in nursing homes. They have cold meals, lights off at 7pm, two showers a week, live in a smaller room and pay rent at $4,000 a month!!! It’s pretty sad that we treat prisoners better than the elderly.” I’ve seen this quoted on Continue reading

work: both paid and unpaid

I’m thinking today about work, both productive work like building houses or caring for sick people, and less productive work like packaging bad mortgages for resale or designing marketing strategies for cigarettes. I’m thinking about this because I’ve read a number of comments recently from people on facebook saying things like that work is available for anyone who wants or that there’s too many people not working. I’m thinking about the phrase “all mothers work.” It’s a phrase I’ve heard in response to the idea that mothers are divided between those who really work and those who stay at home Continue reading

Is there a way to "fight our own government"

I’ve been toying with the idea of starting a regular feature on my blog, a weekly post about the facebook memes (maybe Meme-y Monday) that I end up seeing, going through and trying to discuss the ideas behind them in more detail like I did the picture of babies who don’t believe in mom. There is something incredibly troubling about the modern online equivalent to bumperstickers. I used to post quite a few on my facebook page but I slowed down when I realized, for the most part, they can’t convince anyone anything that the person doesn’t already agree with Continue reading